Recovering from an Affair

When an affair is first discovered, partners can feel as if their whole world has collapsed. Saving a marriage from the effects of an affair can be a big challenge.

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More often than not, an affair can be an unconscious attempt to solve a problem in the original relationship. It’s clearly a signal that something is wrong, but how do we know what that is?  While far from a universal fix, relationship counselling is the natural next-step for many couples, especially those who are determined to save their relationship/marriage.

When partners are focused on healing the hurt and strengthening the relationship it is possible to repair a relationship after an affair. Several studies indicate couples in marital therapy dealing with infidelity were just as successful as couples that attend therapy when no cheating was involved. This outcome will require both parties to be willing to work hard and honestly acknowledge shortcomings in the relationship and in themselves.

Our therapists work frequently in assisting couples to navigate the complexity and all-consuming effects of affairs. At these difficult and vulnerable times you’re in safe hands when you work with a Side by Side relationship professional.

Counselling sessions for couples

When the couple wishes to maintain the relationship, a therapist can assist them by helping each partner discover his or her level of commitment to the relationship, teaching the partners skills for repairing trust and guiding the couple through the process of healing.

Counselling can help individuals and couples to work through the pain and suffering that occurs after an affair.

In the counselling process, partners find a non-judgmental safe space to express their feelings in a manner, which aims to promote healing rather than bitterness. These feelings commonly include anger, shock, dismay, grief, shame, disgust, hopelessness, betrayal, guilt, humiliation, desperation, despair and depression, to name a few.

Often the emotions partners are having are very different. That is also part of the confusion and overwhelm. When partners are focused on healing the hurt and strengthening the relationship it is possible to repair a relationship after an affair. Several studies indicate couples in marital therapy dealing with infidelity were just as successful as couples that attend therapy when no cheating was involved.

This outcome will require both parties to be willing to work hard and honestly acknowledge shortcomings in the relationship and in themselves.

Learn more about our couples therapy services.