Division of Labor in Relationships

Most couples attending relationship counselling argue about the division of labor in their marriage. As the mental scorecard of who does what grows longer with each year, the couple’s friendship and good feeling is eroded.

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If you are married or living with a partner, there is a good chance you might agree with this statement:

“Chores are not shared equally at home by me and my partner”

Most couples attending relationship counselling argue about the division of labor in their marriage. As the mental scorecard of who does what grows longer with each year, the couple’s friendship and good feeling is eroded.

At Side-by-Side, our counsellors guide couples through structured counselling tasks to help them get right on top of this issues.

Common areas of conflict around division of labor

Disagreements can arise in several ways. Couples can have very different ideas about what “clean” means, for example. The stereotype is the slob who claims not to see the dirt paired with a hygiene-obsessed neat freak.

While it’s easy to understand the role of laziness in conflict, over-vigilance can also be problematic. An over-controlling gatekeeper may set onerous rules and methods for exactly how housework gets done, what kids can eat, how much screen time they can have, and so on.

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